I see you with your sparkling house and your pile of tasks yet to be tackled 😩
How are your delaying tactics working out for you? Taking a nap, internet shopping, scrolling through social media, and making another brew😊 Telling yourself you will get to it later, it’s not that important, I’ll just have another donut and do it when it’s really urgent.
😩🙋♀️ Ahhhhhh we’ve all done it. I was queen of the kitchen floor cleaner to the point that you would have been safer eating your dinner off the floor than your plate. The problem was though that as I was finding anything to do other than the actual task I was avoiding, I was getting more and more frustrated with myself. I knew that once I had finished my delaying activity, the task would still be there and it felt like a dread looming over me.
Sounds ridiculous doesn’t it when you actually hear it and read it? But I know from coaching many women that they find themselves caught in this trap of procrastination and cycle of negative feelings towards themselves for it.
✅So let’s take a look at what is really going on and how we can help ourselves to break the cycle if we want to.
All behaviour has a positive intention
What this means is that at some level the behaviour is providing us with something at an unconscious level, and it is this that is driving the behaviour. For example you might be delaying a task because you don’t know where to start, you might feel overwhelmed, it might not interest you, the perfectionism curse might be taking over or you might not be in the mood for it.
There are many reasons why we delay things and find ourselves getting distracted or doing other things.
Addressing the positive intention behind the delaying behaviour can help us to identify what we need to to in order to mobilise ourselves in to action and do it.
▶️Some of us are motivated by the outcome and satisfaction of achieving the task.
▶️Others are motivated by avoiding the consequences of not doing it.
We usually need enough of a pain point to actually do something about the thing that we are delaying.
✅Working out what motivates you can help to overcome procrastination.
Can you imagine yourself having completed it, how that will feel, what you will be doing, the reward at the end and how satisfied you will be?
Or can you imagine how disappointed you will be, how frustrated you might feel knowing that it is still hanging over you. The energy and mental space that it is taking up everyday that you could be using for something else?
🙋♀️Which one motivates you more? The outcome or the consequences? I usually start with my pain point of a consequence and then move in to the sense of satisfaction that I know I will feel when I have achieved it.
🙋♀️To help you move from procrastination to motivation you could ask yourself …
- What need do I have to address here (overwhelm, perfectionism, boredom, state of being, need help, organise time, creativity space first).
- Identify what the need is, deal with that and then move yourself in to action.
- Decide how you are going to do it, set yourself an outcome and DO IT.
- Nothing changes if we don’t take inspired action towards what we want. The energy you are wasting worrying about it could be used to actually do it 🧡 You will be pleased you did 😊
Happy motivation 😊
Love Sarah 🧡